Want to be memorable? Of course, you do! Have you ever been forgotten by someone you’ve met? If so, then you know how crummy it makes you feel, especially when you want to be remembered by that person. To keep that from happening to you again, use your personal story to connect with the people you meet.
Your personal story is a lot like what some call an elevator pitch. It’s the story or pitch you use immediately after meeting someone new. It illustrates who you are and what you do. But a personal story does it better. It illustrates who you are and what you do in an entertaining way. And entertaining is much better than any ol’ elevator pitch for connecting with people because your personal story is memorable.
Note: When using your personal story to connect effectively with others, it’s important that you are always prepared to share it impromptu.
How to Create Your Personal Story to Connect with People
Creating your personal story is simple to do.
1. Create Story Markers to Help You Connect
Story markers indicate where and when your story happened (i.e. A social media event in Atlanta). They draw your listener in and connect them to a place and a time.
2. Develop a Story Arc (a Series of Events)
Your personal story is not a story if it doesn’t contain a series of events or progression of actions (“one, two, three” or a cause and then its effect). Your story’s progression or series should lead the listener from one event or action to another.
3. Paint a Picture in Your Listener’s Mind
Form a picture in the mind of the person with whom you are sharing your personal story. You can accomplish this by identifying the people and their relationships to each other. Use dialogue, a few descriptive adjectives, and their names to paint a clear picture.
4. Get to the Point of Your Personal Story
Avoid leaving your listener hanging, confused and empty, not sure of the point of your personal story.
Provide one sentence at the end of your personal story that helps the listener connect the dots. For instance, if you are telling a story about your social media skills, your one sentence could be, “I really enjoy interacting personally with people on social media to help my clients grow their businesses.”
What’s Your Personal Story?
Many don’t believe they have a personal story worth sharing with others. Self-sabotaging thoughts tend to creep up in our minds when we need to talk about ourselves. That right there may rub you the wrong way, talking about yourself to others. If you are one of those people, ask a close family member or a friend to help you find one. Brainstorming with others you trust will probably help you find more than just one that illustrates who you are as a person.
You may already be sharing a great personal story and not even realize it. I challenge you to pay attention to the stories you tell when you meet new people over the next few weeks. Is each story you tell implementing all four of the above steps? If so, you’re already using your personal story to connect with people, so “Good on ya’!
Personal connections are important. Give those you meet for the first time a glimpse into the real you. Tell your personal story to share who you are and what you do for others in an entertaining and memorable way. Always be ready to make every first impression a good one and an opportunity for you to build a new relationship. If you need help finding and using your personal story to connect with others, contact me. You have one, and I will help you find it.